Your Hubby Cheated:Feminine way to Handle Betrayal like a Goddess& Get Him Back (If you want)

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The Top 3reasons my clients come to me is “Hubby cheated, He now wants polygamy but I want my loving family back”

If you’re feeling heartbroken discovering your man has been loving on another woman and wants her, I can imagine  devastatingly horrible that feels.

You may be feeling sadI shut down and would go silent for days and even weeks, angryI got on a war path with everyone around him, 

I fear that my flowery marriage would collapse , making you grow old in loneliness & misery and desperate to get him back. 

The Reason Hubby Cheating Feels so painful 

Many years ago, our grand mothers married the strongest wealthiest man for his resources . Purely  survival 

For  when it was commonplace to marry to cement two nations practicality, financial stability and duty  convenience rather than love,  

The affair was often the place one would find love.

However, Now in modern times we marry for love, so hubby cheating  feels like a stab in your heart because we look to our men to be our everything… Homie, lover, best friend, confidant, provider, our cheerleader, our ride or die so in turn we feel that we must be his everything.

So when he steps out  it’s like all that comes tumbling down…

It makes you wonder 

“If I’m not his everything then what am I? Am i am not worthy enough to be chosen?, Am I not enough?

It feels like an ultimate betrayal.

One of my favorite relationship experts Ester Perel talks about  state of affairs, rethinking infidelity this in much detail.

The good news is that it’s not easy for a Family Oriented man to leave his wife and family, so all is not lost. 

What To Do To Get Him Back For Good

(If that turns out That He’s best option for YOU). This isn't a gimmick or strategy

1. What's Your Role In this 

Taking Accountability  is Smart & Powerful  If your hubby has had an cheated and you want him back, you may feel like a powerless victim.

Like he holds your emotions, life & destiny in his hands 

You might feel like a failure for ending up in a broken marriage & that’ll make you feel desperate and urgent.

You can take your power back by looking at what your role was in the breakdown of the marriage. We all have worship habits & patterns

(I DON’T mean that you’re responsible for him opening the marriage; his behavior and decisions to start another relationship are firmly his responsibility.) 

However, you were both part of the relationship up until that point.

So, looking lovingly , with curiosity and zero self-blame, at what you ca n learn about yourself and how you show up in relationships, is going to make you a more emotionally smart &sure woman , and will prepare you for the relationship you really want. 

2. CHOOSE YOU 100%

What I mean is  You’ll probably notice your fear that you can never get another good man is running you and all your energy is on him & how to get him back

I’m going to ask you to do the opposite

Get Crystal clear on Your Dream Marriage. (because you’ll be getting a new relationship, whether it’s with hubby or someone else who’s better match if you stay together, it will need to be a marriage that is growing from what it was.

One thing ive learnt is 

” The relationship you want is the prize…. Not the man”

Getting super clear on the relationship you want brings your focus to YOU and YOUR desires and YOUR future rather than ‘trying’ to win him back.

‘Trying’ is effortful, darling. Having endless talks with his family, his brothers, your own family,  updating your friends how things are going trying to resolve things meanwhile they also dont have happy marriages

 I want your effort to flow towards YOU instead.

• Learn to process the inevitable painful emotions, so rather than turning into a bitter woman , with your guard up the emotions make you stronger and more resilient. 

• Change up your daily habits. I am brutal with my clients about this, Setting up weekly solo dates to explore themselves 

• Morning routine, the direction you drive or walk. 

• Play with outfits colours , your hair this is the easiest, I have clients who show up to calls from black to copper and im like wow, who's that?

• Go out shopping and choose some tops in colours that make you feel great. (Definitely get some cute new underwear… just for you)

These may seem like shallow things, but shaking things up on the outside affects how we feel on the inside. 

• Start noticing all the good men around you. Notice loving committed relationships and see that as proof that you can have that again.

• Let men open doors for you. Smile at them. Notice them looking at you.

• Go to classes, revive your interests, and get interested in new things outside work & being a mom

  
  

I want you to be so busy with falling in love with yourself, your feelings (even the crappy ones) and your life, that HE will need to pursue you forever to keep you. This isnt a game 

This practice will shift your energy and make you feel Magnetic, empowered and Exciting

3. LEARN TO Express yourself .

So much of our communication in these situations is Negative & toxic 

Smart communication is when, instead of arguing, blaming, and criticising, you speak about what’s going on for you, and you express how you feel.

This creates a connection and gives your relationship the best shot of growing into a sanctuary relationship where you both feel safe, accepted and loved.

Why are you with her? What do you see in her? Why are you doing this to me? We have children why are you doing this? 

Vs I feel scared about the future of this family, myself

It feels heartbreaking to have to deal with this betrayals

I feel embarrassed that this is too close to home 

If your Hubby comes back to you, it needs to be because he feels deeply committed to you, and he 100% drops the other woman. You’re the one & only. Let him even put a call on speaker breaking up.

So when you take these 3 steps Being accountable  your role in this , Choosing your 100%, & learning Clear calm communication , you become a desirable, magnetic and safe person to be in a relationship with, someone a man cannot bear to lose, and this will give you the best shot of drawing him back to you for good and having his devotion for the rest of your life.

Ms Linda

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