When Your Hubby LeavesYou & Stops Talking To You ; DO THIS

Have you ever felt  devastated from your hubby leaving your home and he just doesnt want to communicate?

And you don’t know whether to wait, or move forward, like you life hangs on a thread?

Here’s a  separation scenerio that I’ve seen happen to many wives, especially if its the man who chose to go

Hi Linda

My issue is my husband left our home about a few weeks ago. I’ve been initiating marriage discussions .he’s not engaging .Him not talking to me and isleaving me uncertain about our future.

I’m aware he called me out on some of my behaviour in the marriage. About how I say mean things when I’m angry at times, I’ve once had physical confrontationl. I regret all this and now see the impact . What I really want is honest communication so we address issues, can grow together & restore a happy home 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQZqtW7MJ3Q

So Here’s my response which will apply to any woman in the same scenario

Dear Lisa,

I can only imagine how devastated you must feel with your husband leaving. And ofcourse anyone would be anxious about their future .

We don’t know what we don’t know so you can’t keep beating yourself up for anything you did in the past 

There’s Initiating and there’s Chasing

There’s separation and there’s avoidance 

There’s Seeking clarity and there’s desperation

There’s wanting to Addressing past  issues and there’s starting a fresh

Okay so much about Lisa

What about your Hubby? Your hubby leaving means that he’s done with the current relationship dynamic which is Tit-for Tat (Power struggle ), Men rarely walk out without signs. Given the past history he’s mentioned some habits that he didn’t like. It doesnt mean that he’s without blame, it just means the existing communication style wasnt working and created damage upto this point 

What led to the physical confrontation? Is he interested in the marriage? Has he chosen someone else who he feels is more compatible? Is he difficult, Moody or Toxic? How long is the separation 

He’s not yet talked divorce which means all isn’t lost just yet

, it’s about knowing that you cant solve issues from the same level of consciousness that created it 

So the question isn’t “I want way forward from him” , It’s about “Do I the right tools, skills & mindset to create an even better  healthier marriage whether its with this man or another “so you don’t end up in the same place . 

So what can you do to start your path to restoration ?

Next time he reaches out, he will, how about ask

“You know, I feel really sad about this, and I’ve its like im the one pushing to have conversations about this separation. Am you interested in the marriage?.  Is there something I should know about us that would keep me from moving forward with divorce?

This isn’t meant to be sweet or flirty. It’s meant to be straightforward, raw, vulnerable & very brave

And when you do this, you become  Magnetic , take your power back which is back to your issue, do you want this marriage as it currently is or to elevate it?

I think its better to cut the BS than to suffer being dragged through a never ending separation game because you’re afraid to get on the driving seat of your life

I know, owning your power  is scary. But the best way to restore & rebuild trust is by trusting that you’ll always take the best care of yourself.

The best way to enjoy a healthy, loving, committed marriage where your man takes charge &provides is having the self esteem to by being the most esmotionally secure version of yourself . When you treat yourself like the prize, men & the rest of the world will too

And the way you do , is to trust yourself

XX,

Ms Linda