Learn to Trust Hubby& Men More :I Used To Feel Afraid Of Men

For more than half of my adultlife/married I never trusted men generally yes even hubby.

Yes they’d do nice things for me but i was afraid 

Not like they’ll injure me physically 

But just that cold eerie fear which would mess around with every thought, feeling, the way i reacted and response to my man 

I know you can relate to this , be it a fear of being rejected by him, being criticised or judged, being told you’re too demanding or the worst of them all, not being enough

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=79OPkEw5T0Y

You see have all this fear going round your mind and body there's no space for him and there's no space for intimacy.

Picture for a minute that there’re are only two feelings, two emotions, two realities, two choices, two ways to be 

Love or Fear

When you're in fear you may find yourself One foot in one foot out  doubtful of  his love

defensive and angrily  snapping at him. 

Feeling disappointed and resentful of what he is or isn't doing.

Feeling lonely and empty even when you're together.

You may feel needy around him like your happiness and well being will depend on how much attention or love he shows you.

You may feel unable to see the positive in things about him and your relationship and find yourself being critical and mistrustful of everything he does.

Your body may be tense and unresponsive around him.

That's just old fashioned fear!

This is just you acting out of your fear-based self, and when you're acting out of this part of yourself you'll unconsciously pushlove and intimacy; like you're putting up an imaginary wall that says 'stay away from me'!I know what a painful and lonely place that is. And I don't want this for you! 

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When you're acting out of your loving higher self

You'll feel at ease trusting your man  

You can see the good in him and your relationship 

Your body is softens, relaxed and opens up  to him.

You can express appreciation of his contribution to you.

You feel relaxed and peaceful with who you are.

Your mind will be quieter.

You'll attract back his love and intimacy to you naturally.

The relationship feels easy. 

And your happiness isn’t pegged on your hubby  and what he says or does! 

Take a minute right now, breathe  just notice how this feels in your body, what sensations and emotions are there?

How to choose love?

1. Trust you are loved universally , you are held, by something greater than yourself & your man . Trust  yourself to make choices and decisions that are for the greater good

Imagine love is warm liquid.

When you're feeling fearful imagine pouring that warm liquid love over you; drenching the fear. 

The warmth reaching into all of your cold dark places. 

Let your shoulders and belly drop and imagine them softening. 

I know you've experienced both these feelings of love and fear with men in your life; and I know from personal experience that at the time it feels like there's no choice... 

If fear's there it's there, nothing to be done about it.

If love's there then it's a happy accident.

In my world love doesn't need to happen by accident. 

By realising that it's your choice where you stand, and using the tools that I teach my 1-2-1 clients, you will feel so much power and freedom to attract the gorgeous, melting, warm, connected love that you desire. 

So when you're feeling prickly and sad, lonely or defensive, ask yourself "Am I standing in love or fear"

Then choose.

Love or Fear?

Be your own best friend, own cheerleader

Love Ms Linda